Your first secret to change is focus you need to learn to focus on the activity you are doing, completely. We are talking about total focus, but what happens when your mind thinks of other projects or activities? Here is one trick, simply buy a small notebook, pocket size. Every time a different thought comes to mind, write it down in your notebook. Then go back to your effort you were working on. This trick allows you to deal with the thought and assign it to later. When you complete your project, then you can review your notes and take action on that task.
The other secret is to read your dream state each day and believe you will live that life. After reading your statements take one action each day towards your dream. For example if you wanted a better relationship with your mate, you may just tell her/him something nice about them. Remember change does take time and you must take action. Without action change will never happen.
Here is the real secret…Put all your joy and love into your efforts to living the life you truly desire. You know every time you place your joy and love on projects they seem to go better and your much more successful. Just look what you would do for your children, you would move everything to make them happy and to show your love. Do the same with your dream life plan.
Much Joy and Love to you and yours