I have always been the type of person always willing to serve. At times I would feel if I served more I would receive more love. When I was young I would do things for girls to get noticed, and it always ended in them becoming a friend, but never a date. My motive was good, but my core beliefs would let me down every time. Even as an adult I serve and felt the more I did the more people would like me.
Then it hit me over the head with a mind opening thought, I was rejecting them before I ever met them. I would reject as a way of protection. I allowed one event in my life to change my beliefs about love forever. I went deep into my meditation looked at that one event, and then I went to that little boy and said you are loved. Yes, I hugged that little boy who was me at a young age. I changed that event to love and skipped for joy that day. No longer do I feel rejected, I feel love.
The trick here is to change your belief. Most people will create new thoughts and say them over and over again trying to convince yourself you are that thought, but it does not work. You need to change your belief to change your life.
Much joy and love to you and yours