Have you ever been accused of something that is a complete lie? Oh the story sounds so true and everyone believes it, but it really is not true. I remember one time just listening to one of those stories, it sounded so interesting and full of data I was starting to believe the story. Finally I said wait a minute none of your story is true, I should know I am the main character in your story. It just continued and created a major argument over a made up story.
Those times and arguments are just pebbles to the huge stories you tell yourself. I know for myself I have a huge collection of stories deep in my mind that are not completely true, and yet I made them true with belief. It could be something very small you heard as a young child and you believed it and always felt bad about it. It could be something a parent told you in their anger and you held on to it as truth. You can name times with old friends or even when you were alone you felt something and took it the wrong way. I lived it and really was a mess.
Then one day I heard the truth about one of those stories, it was nothing like the story I made up in my mind. Then I got to thinking how about all those other stories. One my one I rethought about them and one by one changed my belief. I discovered I really was not such a bad person or a mess, I was really a nice person full of joy and love. Every day when one of those old stories comes to my mind, I think about it and apply the truth and it changes to something wonderful.
Give it a try
Much joy and love to you and yours