To be honest it amazes me they even know all those college players, because I just knew a few. Isn’t it funny how people will not talk about somethings hoping it changes? I see it at work all the time, people will assume things and make up an entire situation based on nothing. I always ask what is going on, why you are acting different. When I get to the core of the thought, it almost always amazes me. I give them the truth and set them on the correct path.
I grew up with a father who always spoke his mind. It didn’t make everyone happy all the time, and they would talk in other rooms about it. Crazy me would also speak my mind and I told them why are you talking in another room. I would tell them just talk to him and tell him your thoughts or feelings about the situation.
Today with mass communications on smart phones sometime too much is said or read into words, and you also have the things you would never say. I have noticed a few times a person getting upset over a text message conversation. The things discussed would never happen in person, but it was ok for them to argue about something in a text message conversation. I maybe old school with this one, but I tell them listen you don’t need to read that message and you don’t need to reply.
Myself I never argue or fight over anything, I prefer peace. I will state my mind, but not in a hurtful way and I don’t believe in keeping secrets. Not speaking up for something will only hurt the relationship and it will not change it just because you remained silent. If you’re upset let the other person know and discuss it. If you hold it in the anger and fear of holding it will blow up and create more anger and fear. It’s like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die. Never works out and just eats at you. Speak your mind in kindness and watch your joy and love expand.
Much Joy and Love to you and yours.